flickr ‘relationships’ [aka 'bullshit detector']
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flickr ‘relationships’.
goodness, what a fucking hornets nest!! ;o
let us move on, with a measure of decorum if that is possible!
flickr ‘relationships’?
what are they?
i have seen them.
i have been touched dearly and very deeply by them.
hopefully, i will continue to be touched by them every day from this point forward.
indeed, it can be said i am ‘in one’ [and gladly so].
i have seen people meet in the real world through an initial contact through flickr.
these ‘meetings’ have made wonderful connections that may well last lifetimes.
this is [in actual fact] one of the only ‘modern’ miracles i have ever witnessed.
i have seen people celebrate the connections they have made through this entirely revolutionary social network.
and yet.
the caveat!
the sheer number of fucking cretins, dickless wonders and pretenders.
fakers, idiots, people who steal the work of others, people who construct an entirely bogus ‘version’ of themselves, humans who do not have the courage to even offer a slim slice of thier own self, but wish to live behind some sham plastic curtain of ‘created’ reality.
i am left in wonder. why do these people engage in this pattern of behaviour?
grow
some
fucking
balls [gender free]
now now now.
we must discuss other pertinent facts.
and the real world impinges.
jealousy!
ownership!
tits.
pecs.
ass.
intellect.
buns.
money.
great job.
tats.
lip gloss.
nails.
creativity [sic].
property.
vicarious marriage.
vicarious fucking.
money.
male hand jobs .
female hand jobs.
the ideal.
the ideal.
the ideal.
the ideal.
great job.
physical attraction.
and reality.
great job.
reality that cannot be represented
by a photograph.
which is a pictorial
and empirical
lie.
you do not know me
you can only know me by living with me
and that may well wreck your percieved view.
[or that 'lack' may well simply magnify your view of me]
how is it for you?
you want real or flickr?
real or meat?
i am not about to offer opinion with regard to freudian interpretation, or indeed any other interpretation.
though i will comm with respect to what others comm.
to end.
flickr relationships, what think you pilgrim?
the|G|™
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cool. i wish i could put my hand through the screen and turn one of those so they connect. you rascal. or should i say the puzzler?
Ironically…this is how i feel most "people" view personal, real life, in the flesh, "relationships" as well…
…and strongly explains (to those "listening") why no one seems to be happy.
;]
All of the above..
I’m in one, too G
I don’t know…….maybe it’s just easier to turn the relationship(pc) off when you’ve had enough and turn it back on when you want more. For me, the feelings are very real, but I’m also acutely aware that the reality is distorted. Sometimes I wonder if this is the appeal for me. Real life marriage is like running a business together, and often times lacks romance and excitement.
My flickr husband
says that this place is much like a town square with one exception……we are able to know (by reading comments) what our "husband" or "wife" is actually doing……all being exposed.
And I don’t actually mean "all" is exposed because private mails can be sent, but all in all, I think that in this virtual world……we can know how a person behaves more readily than in the real world.
All of this shit is new to me ( I only began using a pc in Oct. of last year) and if you would have told me I would fall in love, virtually……I would have said, "bullshit" and meant it. Just goes to show how naive I was.
But, to answer your question…..
I take real……..real keeps you warm at night and I’m really fucking tired of touching myself!
Peace!
No comment ;o) xxx
I am in one…and have met him in person for real. and am about to meet them again this Wednesday as he is flying back to NYC for 3 weeks…I don’t know what to say, other than when I signed up on flickr, it really was just for art (as I am sure it was for all of us). If I was looking for a "mate" I would have gone to a dating site.
And yet, so many of us on here meet..I know a LOT of my friends who have..once again G…profound and interesting topic with an amazing image to go with it.
Thanks!!!
Oh and I love REAL OR MEAT…
Couldn’t agree more.
Marla, you know what’s funny?!
in real world husbands/wives are putting a lot of effort to conceal their love affairs and even flirtations, but here they don’t give a shit.
I urge all virtual ‘husbands’ and ‘wives’, especially ‘husbands’, USE THE FUCKING FLICKRMAILS !!!!
your virtual partner doesn’t need to see your lovey dovey comments/notes you leave on others’ streams.
did someone mention real feelings?!
end of transmission.
My love,
WOW…….I’m gonna flickrmail you right now cause you’re not going to believe what just happened…….nope, not in a million years!
hmmm..I’m not sure what to comment here other than to say that real love however found or formed – lasts.
) can be seen for what it is in a few minutes or okay..days…which is not the real thing.
And fake love much like fake boobs/nails/blond hair (including my own
The thing is?
Fake boobs, hair, nails – don’t really hurt anyone.
But fake love?
Takes away from ones trust to find real love.
Ahhh..yeah..not sure where I’m going with this…but that’s what I put out for now..
If a picture is worth a thousand words and I have begun a ‘relationship’ with someone on a photo site then my ability to get to know that person is 1000-fold. People put on airs in reality….so it can’t be said that we all have an advantage here to create something we are not through our photos..I find way more BS in everyday.
Personally I have been able to devote much more time on a site such as this to getting to know a person first through their work and then beyond. Flickr does connect us in ways we couldn’t be without it and it further plugs us in for more techno-logic advancements in communicating and getting to know that ‘other’. At least here we all share in a common bond of artistry and we then disperse into the various branches of it finding those with whom we can connect with in a more passionate and personal level. I know that for me personally I have devoted and invested much more (quality) time in getting to know a particular person on this venue..brought together by a common bond….and just like in the real world…that relationship moves forward…
A very wise soul told me once that it is almost ridiculous for any of us to think our soul mate just happens to be conveniently located in the town that we live. We all make selections based on convenience…but those of us involved in Flickr relationships know better..but at the same time can create barriers and obstacles if they are geographically challenged. Those things that bond us closer together..spending time with that person..being in their company..feeling that chemistry only achieved by real touch are things not achieved here..and can create a deeper sense of longing than we’d have in our day to day (real) world…
I think it is great in most ways..it has given me a much deeper sense of self..and forced me to be way more creative with investing time in a relationship that I know I would not have otherwise if I were immediately physically able to…As with all relationships their are pros and cons and obstacles…this is no different..just a bit beyond the traditional realm..
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Seen on my Flickr home page. ( ?² )
I’d say beware of computers…;))
Beware of virtual lives and relationship.
Use technology creatively as ….one more tool.
But try not to use technology for things that, if they don’t work out,
can hurt you (or someone else) deep inside.
That’s my two cents….
then again…what do I know ?
I like it
MARLA: I LOVE YOU!!!!!
PAUL: congrats!!! you got jules mute for the first time in his life!!!!
flickr,internet sites ,where u can interact aren’t different than meet people at your job in real life.
you spend time ,sometimes lot of time with somebody
u start to know him/her
things naturally flow
easy.
the advantage in flickr is that u are not looking for somebody here
u are relaxed having fun not with the stress u have in a real date
best way to fall in love.
AND I LOVE MY FLICKR HUSBAND JULIAN ANDREW HOLTOM.
NO FEARS….LIFE IS EASY THAT IT SEEMS
Somebody has to do a reallity show with all of us.
(What a bag of crazy people we are!)
we are totally insane Sol.
i can’t believe my life
galia…
shhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!
relax and enjoy
forget about all what they have taught to you.
there’s not a formula for life
although "practical" people thinks there is
i am and i allways will be an impractical woman
oh, i know Sol, i’ve never played the dradition game, i will never be a traditional woman, wife or mother. never. although i’m expected to be…..
Hi, I’m an admin for a group called TORTURED souls GREAT minds, and we’d love to have this added to the group!
Hi, I’m an admin for a group called Impermanence, suffering and non-self – 3 marks of existence, and we’d love to have this added to the group!
Hi, I’m an admin for a group called i’ll start the revolution when i finish my coffee, and we’d love to have this added to the group!
Hi, I’m an admin for a group called New Directions, and we’d love to have this added to the group!
@ toggle/thinkoutside – i have to agree. in most instances people, wholly ironically, spend almost all their ‘real’ lives acting. playing roles, dissembling.
that they are not actually ‘themselves’ when confronted by others [this can include their romantic partners] offers a psychological dislocation [they know full well they are 'acting'] that leads to unhappiness.
it is almosy impossible to be your ‘real’ self, i am of the opinion that such a ‘real’ self does not objectively exist. you are, to a great extent, made up of your own reactions to those who surround you.
this need to ‘act’ that seems so widespread in human moo-cows [particularly in western consumerist cultures] is my primary reason for keeping a ridiculously small number of friends.
nb – when i speak of flickr ‘relationships’ i am not only referring to what we may call the ‘romantic’ connections. i refer to all relationships that develop through the medium of flickr.
i may well write more later. this subject interests me very much.
but now, i am away to go birdwatching
[oh yes, the arty fucker goes birdwatching!! and loves it!!]
as ever, thanks to thee all for the comms that have been, and those yet to arrive.
toodle pip.
the|G|™
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i am of the opinion that such a ‘real’ self does not objectively exist. you are, to a great extent, made up of your own reactions to those who surround you.
so true. Buddhism. objectively we’re made of our biology….and nothing else. that’s why it’s impossible to be your ‘real’ self, because there is no such thing.
here, excluding fakers and such, we are the closest we can get to our non-self, we’re much much less acting, playing roles, dissembling than in real life.
so when living with someone, G, we don’t get to know him, but his reactions to those and what surround him……and that can be indeed disappointing.
x
Wow, so much wisdom from one image and description. I guess flickr is the missing piece for many.
blimey !
sesons greetings the G style " grow some balls " !!
and hang ‘em on your Christmas tree
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Seen in my contacts’ photos. (?)
there are no Flickr relationships. there are relationships, if they’re real; Flickr is just a medium, a tool to bridge over to someone. anyone, who thinks that they are in a "flickr relationship" needs his/hers brains examined… otherwise, we may move into flickr babies, flickr kisses, flickr on-line sex, separations, deaths and other fuck ups.
"£"$&^*&^(*(
New Directions group
@ UU – agreed!! wonderful point.
flickr STD’s?
the|G|™
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W,
As always, you cut straight to the truth with brilliance!
G,
Western moo cows? Should I be offended?
take no offence whatsoever
best to thee.
the|G|™
the|G|™ photostream
Grazie!
@ UU – i knew i could trust you in pointing us towards a new direction
@ the|G|™ – what is STD?
x
AND I LOVE MY FLICKR WIFE
Truth be told the only woman I’ve yet to meet I’d happily marry.
hehe….thanks Jules
when is the wedding? and……do it in England, i’ll pay you
))
Damnit. I don’t have a Flickr husband.
I feel left out. Humph….;))
Your words are rockin’ as per usual Paul.
Happy ho ho ho holidays to you sir.
And big hugs xo:))))
Saw This at The Factory.
SOL: I love you, too
I saw this Great Photo in Group :
攝影發燒友
Please tag your photo: 攝影發燒友
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What a worthy contribution to this thread…
Jules, i’m actually painfully laughing aloud…..
攝影發燒友
I saw this Great Photo in Group :
攝影發燒友
Please tag your photo: 攝影發燒友
@ jules and dah bum – cool your bloody jets people
it’s a language barrier thang.
travelhaha is 100% cool.
laters nice people
the|G|™
the|G|™ photostream
i know the|G|™, i was just kidding although i usually hate myself after cruel jokes as this, i really mean that
i’m familiar with these icons, i see them a lot in your stream and i know that they are without comments because of language barrier.
so guys, what about these flickr relationships??
)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3_neOGeee9k
http://www.goear.com/listen/527eacd/i-want-you-to-want-me-dwight...
the|G|™
Network friednships / relationships, whatever you want to call them are usually temporary. Of coarse there is the case by case, but I believe in general it is temporary. Although you can always remain respectful towards people who comment, write, understand your art, but often your own styles evolve & are influence by others running the ball around here, so friendships / relationships tend to fade. Personally, there are so many other places to post your art, you can own your own domaine for cheap if not for free and run Google adds for traffic, but in the end, we’re all here for attention & recognition. I know I am… I love it when people love my pics!!! It makes me feel warm & useful!
Always bringing up topics G, love it!
I’m here for the free beer.
Nice "mind-candy" -thanks for posting!!!
Saw This at The Factory.
a flickr meet would either invoke unhealthy levels of jealousy (this swine is far better/more popular than me) or contempt (this swine is more popular than me)
but then I am a small man in many ways
@ sp.neale – or comparable bouts of hubris [i am better than this swine]
the|G|™
the|G|™ sets
brilliant words! brilliant discussion! so true!!! so, so true!
funny cause when i came her for the first time i never tought to meet these people face to face. i had an awful experience in a portuguese site of photography where those silly people i met only made loosing my time…so i tought it was excelent here, that possibility of no 2meet face to face" any one. but we change, and yes, i meet already people face to face from here and the result is onviously good.
I want the real. not the virtual.
Flickr is a wonderful territory!
Nice pic!
I just used it on a blogpost at Freelance Advisor
Guide to Working with Freelancers
I think that everyone loves flickr relationships so much because there is no responsibility involved. And many of the moocows and anti-moocows are terrified of interpersonal responsibility. You can sign off whenever you like.
I also think that they are without a doubt LESS intimate. Watching your love piss and shit and brush his/her teeth in the morning over and over and over is such a moving experience.
YEAH RIGTH
right
DIE BRUCKE
the image
DOES
provoke
You know it yourself – 99% is STILL shit! And yet, I’ve made some wonderful friends through flickr (craig r4, and also dou_ble_you and Die Brucke 2009, both of whom have also commented on the above image)…
Oh yeah – I love the tags!